Forward we go.

“Dear Drew, Forgive me for being so personal, but now that the submissive sex is ending, may I ask if you will continue as DualDrew?

Hugs, Edited Name Here”

Thumper closed the story of the week on the Drew and Thumper Show with a very interesting post about how his submission waned as he got to know me better. I was not going to post on this at all and let this close out and then I received the question listed above this morning that made me think about it and, well, here we are. But, first and foremost, I would like to point out to all that I was in a conversation with him and, I believe, I was the one who said “we got to know each other too well, but in the scheme of life that’s probably better”. He said, “Now I know what to post” and the rest is history (though him being him he will likely dispute my story, just cause). I say that to point out that all is good and the DT show will continue, maybe in a milder format, though, in all honesty, one can’t get more mild than most of my whole blog anyway.

As a funny and a fact, the post of Thumper’s I referenced could not serve as a better example of how he and I are different. I say that because with that post he thought he had closed the chapter, honest and true, and in my mind, I thought he had accidentally deleted a chapter at the end saying what is next. There’s no real right or wrong in that (but if there was I would be right), but that’s just probably a way that our friendship is good in many ways because, sometimes, I make him talk one more minute or two than he wanted to and, sometimes, he makes me shut up a minute or two before I wanted. That alone is probably a good check point for both of us friendship wise and those two things can come in handy in many of life’s little situations.

So, enough about Thumper (“finally”, they scream)

To address the question above, yes, DualDrew will continue because, well, I am that guy even without a rabbit boyfriend. I laughed at the question at first and Thumper called the writer a name or two, but when I took a step back I realized that to a casual reader or a late arrival, someone may have thought the Dual part was about the dual relationship not realizing that it truly describes my almost polar opposite sides of preppy southern seersucker laden business guy who just might happen to have a metal penis and/or something up his ass that day. It describes me as a guy who is almost too kind and sensitive for his own good, but when the mood is right I am the same guy who could hang a man from the ceiling by his nipples and become aroused because it is hurting him. It describes the guy who can act like everything is perfect but who might be dying inside temporarily because he wasn’t mentioned or didn’t get the same compliment as other people. And, finally for at least here, it describes the guy who literally travels all over the world disrupting offices and lives, often in very harsh terms and actions, in an effort to make a team better but who then comes home and occasionally puts on a collar and lets his husband give him a chore list. All those things, for me, define the word “dual” and that is why, at a minimum, Thumper and I chose this name way back when we were creating a pseudonym for me (it was between this and Kinky Kevin).

So, yes, officially I will go on living AND, as a bonus, the blog will too. Thumper will still be a guest star through stupid stories and I will continue to encourage him to write anything really kinky and nasty he would like to on here, because it’s a different outlet for him in case he ever needs it. For me, I will still tell the day to day world of my brain and, while some days it may be about how stupid I think Ben Carson is or how my pants fell down while I was giving a speech, the other days may be about the sex Axel and I are having with each other and, now, other people. In many ways, it’s more freeing to me because I can write about whatever sub feeling I have and how it plays with my Dom feelings without the worry of the coming across as too submissive for my submissive boyfriend. Finally, though he may not like it or, as in most cases, likely doesn’t give a fuck, for now, I will still use the boyfriend reference from time to time because the closeness between us that signified that word remains in many ways and, well, it’s just in too many places to go change right now.

So, that’s that. No more whining about what this is or isn’t because it’s two steps forward now and if he and I take a step back and there is inappropriate touching, I will be sure to let you know first. But, for the moment, forward we go.


  1. I wonder if you realize how many people have been affected by the positive example you and Thumper (and Axel and Belle) have demonstrated as you navigated opening your marriages. You didn’t have to share as much as you did, but I have no doubt that you made some lives better for it. It never even crossed my mind that you would stop writing, so I’m glad to hear you won’t! I enjoy reading you no matter what the subject.

    NDG xx

    I’m pretty sure you promised pictures of the Axel this morning too. *taps watch* 😉

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  2. Glad that you aren’t going to stop writing. I’m always excited when I see that you have a new post. You share so much of yourself and that is amazing. I’m glad to count you among my friends. Hugs.

    And I want those pics too..


  3. Your blog and Thumper’s blog have always seemed like a Venn diagram to me separate but slightly overlapping. I don’t think that will change much just the overlapping subjects will. Both blogs are brilliant to read.
    It’s always been clear to me in your blog that you always were ‘Duel’ I never got the impression that it was just for Thumper, but now it seems he ‘christened’ you Duel. So thank you Thumper it’s a great name. Kinky Kevin just doesn’t have the same je ne sais quoi 😄


  4. I am glad I found your blog and Thumper’s. The insight in to open and honest communication is instructional to all folks.


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