A Trusting Blowjob

It all started with:

Do not let my dick even slip out of your mouth until I tell you it’s time” 

A simple statement from me, but a new challenge for Thumper as he was now swallowing me while enduring my right hand gripping his balls in a vice like method while my left caressed his chest lightly before finding a nipple to essentially assault mercilessly. I think I have mentioned before how good he is with his bisexual bunny tongue and a blow job from him is something one could stand in line for (fyi, next time I am there I may entertain visitors so let me know if interested), but this was the first time, I recall, that I had abused him quite so much during oral activity.

It was right after I had thumped his stretched scrotum really hard that I realized the implicit trust I had in him not to bite down or do anything in that vain to me as he had my favorite body part right there. Yes, I know there was already a huge amount of trust in the room as he was submitting to me, but I realized that the level of trust a top has to put in a bottom, especially during a BDSM scene, is almost as equal as the bottom to the top. Yes, I said almost because the chances of me hurting him were far greater than him me, but you get the idea.

See, since I have been old enough to remember, every single thing I have read about BDSM was that the bottom has to have an implicit level of trust in the top. I can remember tons of articles about never letting someone tie you up in your own home or meeting in a public place or making sure you had safely words and all that jazz (all great advice) and while some would use the phrases “mutual trust” or similar, almost all of these are geared toward the bottom of the relationship. I understand this completely, but as a top, especially a Dom, you have to also trust your partner to know that they will not do something that will cause you pain or injury. In a power control situation, I would say that this is even more important because I have to trust Thumper, but I also have to know him and his limits, his reactions, and more to make sure that terrific blow I give to his nether regions combines with the terrific blow I am receiving to my nether regions without a trip to the ER.

So, boys and girls, take this blow by blow to heart and know that the trust factor is indeed two pronged.

18 thoughts on “A Trusting Blowjob

  1. Funny thing is, the “or else” thing I don’t need to hear. I *want* to do exactly as I’m told and the consequences of not are a given. Maybe you get off on issuing the threat and that’s cool, but the sub in me sees it as superfluous. There’s an implicit threat behind every command that’s not follwed, especially if they’re centered on my top’s pleasure. I can’t try any harder with or without the explicit threat.

    Also, the trust in me not to hurt you is more, I think, an understanding by you of my limits and how I react. There’s really nothing I would avoid more than inflicting unwanted pain on my top while being forced to endure whatever predicament I’m put in. I’m there to be exploited and enjoyed and to provide the feedback my Dom enjoys, not to unexpectedly bite off body parts. 🙃

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    1. Well, in actuality I’m not sure I said “or else”, did I? I may have thought it and thus wrote it. And I agree, I never once worry you will bite my dick off, but what, I think, hit me is that I don’t have that worry at all.

      You are in a challenge phase right now and the above is the exact reason there wasn’t an “or else”?

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    2. Thumper. I have loved the last two posts and so glad you two perverts are still “friends”. Can I ask you how you felt? What your mind said? Your side of these?

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      1. In this particular instance, when he told me to take his cock in my mouth and leave it, I was focused on doing that. Even as he fingered me and hit my balls and twisted my nipples. As I recall, my hands and feet were secured to each other while this was happening, so I had to contort myself to keep his dick in there while he was moving me around to get access to what he wanted to abuse or invade. THe longer it went, the more spit built up in my mouth so I started to drool. I decided “keep it in there” meant I had to keep enough in my mouth so as to make swallowing impossible. I tried to make sure I had as much of his cock down my throat as I could take and still breathe.

        My nature is to do what he says in those situations. To try and follow the order as well as possible. I need to maintain mental discipline because if I allow myself to cheat in any way then I start to slip out of the headspace. Or it may be that when I’m really in the headspace, cheating isn’t an option and, if it were, then I really wouldn’t be there. Hard to say. In any event, when I sub I try and sub as hard as I can. Whatever he wants within the parameters of my boundaries (which he already knows) goes.

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  2. This is really nice, Thumper. I keep thinking or hoping you will guest write on Drew’ blog, especially around the way you can think of him as a Dom and a friend. I struggle with that is my slavery and so trust your guidance. You are good for all us subs out there.

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    1. Also. I admire what you said about how you follow his orders when you should. You two have a fascinating and unique friendship that I am sure more people than me are jealous of.

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      1. Maybe not everyone approaches it as I do, but I dont’ sub for a scene or whatever. I’m not playing around. I *am* submissive and both need and crave to be treated that way. If someone is going to go so far as to expend the energy to top me, then I need to reciprocate by being the best sub I can be. Following every command or request to the best of my physical ability. For me, that’s true submission. That’s just how it works in my head.

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  3. An awesome account of growth for each of you. I can see where Drew’s growth is tough, it’s sometimes hard to flip the switch between friend and Dom, especially in the way that Thumper wants and needs. I encourage you to continue working on it and posting accounts here. I’d also highly suggest pictures, lots of pictures!

    How do we both begin the vetting process for the “I may entertain visitors” portion of the post?

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    1. I missed the others can line up part? I’m locked and have never topped but what I have heard about Thumper’s ass might make me change 🙂

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    2. Drew likes to be friendly and I’m fine with friendly but when it’s hard to go from friend space to subspace. This time worked better because I was in subspace from the moment I walked in the room until he took the collar off at the airport. After the sex, our interactions weren’t *that* different than they would have been otherwise, but it helped me stay centered to know we were still “on.”

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      1. Thank you, Thumper, Sir. I have to assume you could not go to a place where you were not friendly due to your relationship but it sounds like you have figured out when to blur the line.

        Badpig mentioned growth and I have to go back and read again, but I’d love to hear how you think you have each grown in your roles and vanilla lives as you became more sub. Did he become a better dom or do you settle cause it’s what you have?

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      2. You shouldn’t call me sir. Definitely not a sir! 🙂

        I think Drew is more confident now in a Dom role and more likely to let his desires take over in our times together. He’s less hesitant and lets what he wants to do to me drive the action. He’s also been instrumental in helping me be a better bottom and masochist. Helping me push my limits and move past them. He’s taken advantage of my submissive desire to perform for my Dom.

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  4. Being a Dominant takes lots of trust in the sub, esp when the rubber starts to hit the road in terms of (1) being served exactly the way I want and (2) allowing My inner Beast out during a scene. One of the hardest things I’ve learned is that I cannot take any given boy at his word when he begs to serve Me, esp when he is begging to serve exactly in the way I want. I’ve got the broken dishes, damaged laundry, and totally erased smartphone scars to prove it. Now new boys must progress through proving they are worthy of increasingly amounts of trust, and what I’m watching for is whether they accurately perceive their own limitations and whether I can rely on them to alert Me to those limits. I’ve adopted part of the Hippocratic oath in My requirements of boys: do no harm.

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