Check In from the Other Side of the World

WARNING: Nothing sexy in this post.IMG_0269.jpg

Hi. Remember me? It’s been forever but I have just stepped away from the public side of kink and chastity to just do life and adjust to the new job and all the things that go with increased travel.

So, with that, hello from Tasmania (pic above) where I am sitting on a couch next to my friend Mack, who you all know from previous posts, having one final glass of wine capping off a day of day drinking. I am not typically one to do that, but as Axel said to me tonight via text, “I love that you are with Mack because he’s social and he makes you better by making you do things”. So, as usual he is right and he and I continue what I think is one of the most special, intimate, yet non sexual friendships I have ever had, with Chris from Steelwerks being a close second only because he doesn’t live in the hemisphere where I am now (I mean, both see my penis regularly and that’s not something most friends I have get to do, you know?).

This trip is 27 days long which is insanity and not something I will do again. The funny part is Thumper is just a few countries away from me for about 29 days himself and we will both get back to the US around the same time. He and I have texted almost every day on this side of the globe and, whether he knows it or not, I fully intend to hone my Dom skills with him when we are both over the jet lag. At the right moment, I think he will be okay with this.

As for Axel, he is gearing up hi Dom side and I could not be happier. He now has a non sexual service sub at home that is really helping him grow. The sub is probably one of the most natural slaves I have ever met because he just gets off on being of service and, selfishly, I love it because our house has never been more clean. Also, there is a benefit to this as well because Ax is getting much more comfortable in his sexual skin and, from the tone of the texts I am getting, I am going to really benefit from this when I get home and he and I escape to an island for six days immediately following my return.

And, for the boy Bolt, he is on assignment on this side of the world too for four more months. He and I talk as much as possible, but he has very little predictable free time so it doesn’t work as often as we wish. He is nearing 70 days into his 100 days and I could not be more proud of his sexy ass.

So, with that brief update, it’s bedtime in this hemisphere, but I thought I would at least check in and say I am alive. I am getting used to this new part of work life and the sex drive is increasing daily, which will mean I will be back soon!

Cheers.

 

Schandmaske Chastity

IMG_8129As many of you may have seen through the many pics of my metal clad penis that float around the interwebs, I have added a third Steelwerk’s device to my collection – the titanium Schandmaske. This device is identical to the lucite prototype cage (creatively called the Lucite Schandmaske) I asked Chris, from Steelwerks Extreme, to design for me as a way to help make my travel more simple.  I love that one so much that after I wrote this review of it, I began wondering about the titanium one and how it would feel, so I asked Chris to delay the Creature Cage (my ultimate goal) and make me a titanium one of these instead. He happily agreed as it’s his nature to always be happy <insert laugh track of those who know him reading this here>, and about a month later I was the proud recipient of a new, improved metal penis.

NSFW pics can be found here

My gut instinct was love at the first twist of the screw and this thing felt, well, awesome. I wanted to immediately jump on here and write the most glowing review of the cage; however, I quickly decided to do something different and wear it in the real world and THEN give a review. That means, that on a semi-consistent basis (time out for travel, topping, work presentations, and my other devices) I have worn this cage (almost) consistently for the last six weeks and two days so that I could give a review of not just the cage, but how life is while locked in it. So, let’s get to that.

First, the name.

Yes, it’s complicated and my US based MacBook wants to put a red line under it each time I type. However,  the official translation lies below:

Schandmaske: German for “shame mask” and also known as a scold’s bridle, a schandmaske was basically a way of inflicting shame upon the person who was forced to wear it.

There are so many ways to take this and I am sure that some of you are “hard” thinking about the fact that you have been or would be made to wear something originally intended to create shame just as much as I am sure some of you are thinking that “there’s nothing shameful about chastity” (fyi – we call that Team Drew) but those are posts of themselves for the future as this is only about the device.

The device itself is quite simple as it’s just a solid titanium cap with an extended collar that has a compression-ish grip on the shaft of the penis. It is beautifully crafted and, with a few ridges and waves in it that makes it appear that it was hand carved out of a block of titanium. It is just as beautiful as it is simple and, like most SW pieces, could be a piece of art for the mantel if so inclined.

Once in, done by a bit of lube and some genuine pushing, the device is secured by the insertion of a locking hollow barbell through the end of the penis and out the bottom of the PA hole where it is capped. A locking screw confirms that it’s not coming off without some pleading (you have to have a piercing in order to wear this cage). Once in place, the feeling for me is almost indescribable in a few really good ways, a couple of them being the exact opposite of why many men get locked.

It is so comfortable that I often forget it’s even there and, with the hollow barbell, I can piss like I was 13 again with no worry about spraying a neighbor at the urinal next to me or pissing myself (though one does need to make sure he gives it a few extra shakes to avoid trapped urine in the tube coming out when he points that boy south – trust me on this one). It does not pull on the PA barbell, doesn’t get caught on underwear, and, the best part for me, with no A ring, there is zero chance of chafing or the pulling of hair. Cleanliness is super easy too because it’s very easy to just squirt some shower gel down into the cage, rub it around in there with a pinky or a stick, and then rinse, rinse and rinse some more.

Yes, when locked in the device one can get a fairly solid erection, but when one does, that creates pressure on the shaft and, with the good part of the penis covered, there is not much that can be done about it aside from thinking about dead puppies and Trump naked in an effort to make it go away. It’s not a painful pressure either, but it is enough that one will  to make sure make sure it goes away ASAP too. I suspect, with the right volunteer, one could fuck with it on, but having not had the said volunteer I cannot say it with certainty.

As far as the day to day wear, as I have said, it’s great. It easily fits in most pants and, while noticeable if stared at, with thick enough fabric one can’t see what it is. In fact, it enhances the penis to look as if I were Jon Hamm in running shorts.

Finally, my favorite part? When locked into this device, as I am now, I find that it makes me personally feel quite endowed. It has just enough weight to it to keep the penis low and long and added weight causes the penis to swing when I walk naked, which is a feeling unlike any other I have had and I LOVE it./

Steelwerks assured me that the TSA would allow this and so I did a test before walking myself and my metal dick through it. The test was putting it in the pocket of my light jacket (allowed through in the US) and I sailed right through. The second time I wore it and, again, sailed right through. However, I am starting to get the random full screenings in the big machine, so I have not worn it through lately just because I don’t have the time to be stopped in most cases.

Bottom line, this is an amazing device and if you are pierced and into chastity, you owe of these to yourself!

Emotional Rabbit: Thumper’s Tale

Thumper posted yesterday on Denying Thumper  about his May chastity numbers which were followed by a very enlightening look at the emotional ups and downs that he goes through as a locked man.

While I have never been locked long enough to get anywhere close to the feelings he describes and, because of my life, likely never will, I was very happy that he put that out there because it indirectly explains a lot about the relationship he and I have together. I say this because I have had some questions in the past from readers and friends about what happened and why did we not have this amazing sex or why wasn’t my arm up his ass or more. Sometimes these are genuinely just curious questions and, sometimes, they have an edge to them as if Thumper and I have misled the blog readers intentionally or, as if, he has been inconsiderate of my feelings and made it all about him, the locked submissive bottom, which, they say, should never be allowed.

I generally am very defensive of him in these situations or will blame it on myself as well because I can see why things may look the way they do. And, in full confession, there have been a few times where the “what the fuck, I fucking flew here, spent money and get no sex” thoughts used to cross my mind from time to time, especially early in our relationship. However, as I got to know him better and better, I no longer had that feeling, no longer felt unattractive, or had any of the other self limiting thoughts I would have had, because he, at some point around the six month mark, started allowing me into his head where I understood what he was feeling – though I could never really express it to the blog world, nor did I feel like it was my responsibility to do so. My nonchalantness about the times we didn’t fuck comes from here now and not a place of apathy.

In the post, he describes how he, as a man who doesn’t orgasm frequently, will go to a high high of horny and desire and then how it will suddenly crash down into a pit near depression. When this happens, he discusses how it feels with the following quote and, as someone who watches and who is often indirectly or directly effected by it, this is a great quote to help in the understanding.

Thump says…

When I’m in this place, it’s like the flavor is drained from everything. I’m easily angered and have little interest in anything sexual. I will usually be able to perform for Belle, but I’d not think to instigate anything. It has to be her to push the button. This is the time when, if I find a dirty selfie on my phone or computer, I’m most likely to delete them. I don’t look at my own blog, can’t imagine writing anything, and don’t even look at Tumblr. The toys I enjoy during normal times appall me. It’s not any fun at all.

It’s a great statement that is only missing one thing which is another sentence at the end saying “and that’s usually right about the time that Drew is scheduled to come into town”. I absolutely know it’s not because I am coming in town (now) but it has happened multiple times and he and I have had many, many talks about why and if it’s a correlation of the visit or simply happenstance.

We settled on happenstance because there are also always external factors that play into this that you don’t see and,we don’t share those, but these that can immediately limit any and all sexual play (such as a child calling in crisis at that moment the pants come off, etc) or stop it cold before I even get off the plane. Yes, if I lived around the corner we’d probably both be way more satisfied with each other sexually and would have likely tried far more kinky things, but I also venture a bet that if I did live there, we’d be more akin to fuck buddies versus having any type of friendship at all which is one of the things I would not change at all in this relationship.

I realize in saying the above is that we/I actually don’t owe anyone an explanation on any of this, but, when I read what he wrote, it just hit me that I already knew this stuff, but had not seen it written which was then followed by the fact that those who have written to me thinking he is an ass, just simply had no way of understanding that as it had not been easily explained. While he may be a huge ass at times, it is never intended as a slight against me and my ever ready kinky dick when I am there and that is all anyone needs to know.

I encourage you to take the time and read his post and think about it. Yeah, the metrics are there and stuff, but the underlying message is that a locked life is not always about sex and feeling like and wanting sex and being horny because the actual emotions involved can go from sunny to stormy within seconds. If you are a locked man, I hope you can get a better understanding of yourself from reading it to gauge where you go and what happens to you, but, if you are a keyholder, this is likely even more valuable to you in understanding the dynamic you control.